Hello again
This blog is about exploring, evaluating and experimenting with different ideas, practices and activities … of ‘finding your own fit’. My academic background and interests are broad although I strive to be as specific as possible when using tools, techniques and exercises. I value diverse perspectives as they contribute to the ‘whole’. 2024 1 January…
2023
29 December
My psychological New Year gift to everyone would be this:
The ability to turn off self criticism like one turns off a tap. How much good that would do. Just to be able to turn it off.
I think self criticism is the most consistently negative theme I have noticed doing therapy. Self criticism is of no value. Reflection, yes. ‘What could I do differently?’ ‘What did I learn from that?’ Then move on.
We tend to beat ourselves up with ‘shoulds’ and ‘oughts’ and compare ourselves to others. This just keeps us down. Whenever I ask someone if they would talk to a friend like they are talking to themselves they say ‘no.’
The opposite of self criticism is self compassion. If we do this enough it rewires the faulty wiring, changes the negative representations in the mind. This is cognitive psychology.
It’s been a busy 18 months without any posts so it was about time for one.
About Me
Hi, I’m Lillie. Previously a magazine editor, I became a full-time mother and freelance writer in 2017. I spend most of my time with my kids and husband over at The Brown Bear Family but this blog is for my love of food and sharing my favorites with you!
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